How to ATTRACT a Man?? An article that was thrown at me during a recent trip onto the internet.

“As her emotional attachment grew stronger and stronger, she also grew more and more insecure.”

That line caught half of my attention so I continued to read, wondering how bad, merchandising related, did it get?
The following story it gave me, for the most part was all pretty obvious, some good points but nothing that would change the way men and women related to each other. And then it spiraled to this…

Did it mean that she needed to put everything on the line and REALLY let him know how she felt?
She finally decided that she couldn't go on like this anymore... she had to be with him.

The first line makes a very good point. Why do women feel that they have to expose themselves completely to let someone know “about them”. And when time runs out on that satisfactory feeling of attention and love, then you crank it up a notch. Women’s souls are deep, we do and think some strange things…we can “outdo” our last emotional discovery and release…10 times over. Each time is hard, and we usually have the few moments afterwards questioning our sanity. “what…why did I just say that?” But never think you can reach the bottom.

I do believe that both sexes can do this, not all men out there lack this ability. We do think differently in some situations, but there is a basic human nature need for love and attention. Beyond the physical.
As a dearest friend once (or twice…) said to me, “Men are asses.” True…very true but it still doesn’t give them permission to be so. It is unfair to use it as a “crutch”, almost as unfair as woman using their PMS to get away with being a complete c***. Its taking advantage of real differences between us, but excusing them. Men can be asses, they think about things differently then us, but some men are better than the “ass” label.

Now the second part of that quote; “..she had to be with him”.

What society has taught us was if we try hard enough and love “deep” enough than no man can resist. How else to explain our crushes, those ones back in high school. A teacher or a boy 3 years ahead of you, love…you were in complete love. Now think back…would you still want a life with them? A house, kids, someone you could spend your time arguing with and you would just call it passion? Or do you shake your head and say to yourself “wow…I was…just a tad…psychotic”.

I don’t believe you can feel love if it isn’t reciprocated. A crush, a desire, a need…yes. But love? The bottom line of love for me is someone that has never made me feel…bad..about myself. You don’t wonder, if he will call, or why he hasn’t called yet. You’re not afraid to touch their back in bed, fearing they will pull away. You are just comfortable, you don’t question, and you just know that other person is there. I don’t think I have ever loved someone and not shared it with them. Oh I have obsessed and pined after people, but will never claim I loved them. How could I? It was not equal. That of course doesn’t take into account those “asses” that we have all met. Cruel people that give men a bad name. On the other hand, much like “men are asses” doesn’t give them permission to be an ass. Same goes for the sensitivities of a woman, doesn’t give them permission to be cruel and hurtful or psychotic. You just need to learn to pick a member of the opposite sex that compliments your personality, and then the differences become easier to manage.

But this “book” I found on the internet preyed on the females that may not be able to see the line between crush and love. It tried hard to say that you needed an initial attraction to even begin this “amazing new courting” system. But then followed up with something like this…

“One does that by creating ATTRACTION from the beginning.

One does that by understanding the dynamics of how and why men have the physical and emotional response of ATTRACTION triggered.

One does that by knowing what you're doing FROM THE BEGINNING.

And what's the best way to learn THAT skill?

I thought you'd never ask...”

And now we get the price…more promises of “amazing” secrets and your email addy needed. Yeah…right.

So at the end of the day, I didn’t learn how to attract a man. I guess go back to lots of cleavage, because this piece of…advice I found tells me to never talk to a man, he doesn’t want to hear it. They are skittish creatures..those men.