The sun peaking around the black clouds,

TV playing in the background, entertaining the others.

It's a great lazy day way to spend your time off.

My thoughts are lingering on a previous conversation today. My heterosexual life partner is in a tough place right now. She once met a man, a working relationship. When she left the job, it was told to her that this man was quite interested in her. She exchanged msn addy's with him and quickly forgot about the situation. A year later, one week ago, she discovered an unknown person wanting to add her to his msn list. She's adventurous, so she clicked the box "ok".

After some confusion, she soon realized who he was. A flowing conversation, some laughs and a lot of compliments from him followed. Although there may have been a few that came off a bit cheesy, she thought that this could be an interesting situation. Both parties agreed to meet for a opening coffee, to see if there was any interest lingering. When she left that night she was pleasantly surprised and went to bed feeling charmed.

They set a date for this past Saturday, and she did her feminine grooming, feeling those butterflies working. At the time he was supposed to call, the phone didn't ring. Throughout the evening she left two messages for him, just wondering what was happening for the evening. Very casual about it, although she had to start questioning his courtesy.

As of today, Monday, she hasn't heard from him, no explanation nor a "not interested". We got to talking and we tried to come up with why the sexes see things so differently. And is there any claim to women being to analytical, or going psychotic?

These are the words of my heterosexual life partner:

And how did we get to the psychotic? Let's review..... Woman A and Man A met, claim similar interests and agree to met. All went well and Man B left with a grin on his face promising of a date. Something went wrong, a death, an accident, a better option, only she can wonder. Woman A places a minimum set of calls letting him know that she is curious, and hopes all is ok.

Man A does nothing.

Now Woman A has a spunky attitude and quickly starts to become a bit annoyed with the situation. Her pride and her lack of a "stalker" look on life, she lets it be.

And Man A....does nothing.

But now she sits here, believing the worst, angry that he thinks he can harm her. Women A is not a porcelain doll, she will not break.
If Woman A kept calling, Man A would start to fear the situation and assume it's the beginning of the psychotic stage of all female creatures.

Man A......still does nothing.

Yet men wonder how we got psychotic in the first place, *refer to above and reread*.


No, we don't want you to wait till next week to tell us that the same "spark" is just not there. Tell us now. Explaining that you need to break a date verses not showing up, should be an easy one. Done....The End.



My partner feels very strongly and I feel sad that she feels hurt. I agree with some of her intense feelings and know that some of the anger is just not understanding his side, and not being given a chance to.

So now I'm the host of a menbashing evening.....not sure what to include...if anything. Not quite a past to brag about, even in a "bashing" way. I hope he has a great excuse and I hope she can release her pride...just a bit. You never know what may happen.